Messages from The Pod
Choosing a Direction that Matters
It’s 4 AM and I haven’t slept a wink. I was up ALL-night twisting and turning. I guess the dust really settled and what I am truly feeling is coming up. It feels I have lived full speed ahead for months without being truly aware of what was happening. Driven by the need for speed, to please people and driven by ‘shoulds’.
I am both tired of and fascinated by the duality of my dreams and emotions. And then there are the thoughts that keep crossing my mind, distracting me from the true source of my anguish, which I know will be the exact same place that I, eventually, will find my relief, release and healing. Where I can return to source and true personal leadership.
My Rite of Passage
It really is time for the next part of my story. The part where I am ready to give back. I have received so much good in my lifetime. I can now choose consciously to be a force for good. To bring to the world a combination of all the Eastern and Ancient wisdoms I was taught and my more academic teachings and experiences in my corporate and business background. To bridge two worlds. With effortless ease.
In order to wake up we need a wake-up call
This week overwhelm and fatigue are mine. It’s the sign that I am approaching and doing things by force and with my mind only. Not that this is in any way new, and you would think by now I would have learned! But apparently, I am human and, in my late forties, it’s time to figure out the next steps. I must have had some temporary amnesia over the past year. If I want to serve others, I need my own vessel to be clean and clear and I need to come from a place of heart, my source.
My quest is to figure out where I took a turn on to the overwhelm-road, what motivate me to do so and what to learn from it.
To be available to support other people, it is important to be connected to your own mind, body and heart in a clear and distinct way. Working as an independent professional and as a mentor and teacher means ‘you are your product’ and knowing yourself and the stirrings of your heart and being in sync with your own needs, is essential. It requires continuous attention. “How am I doing?” and “Do I have room to be there -completely – for someone else?” and “Will I be able to listen deeply to someone?”.
To be Rooted
Self-compassion and self-care are key in my line of work, and results in a calm demeanour. This brings effortless ease and wisdom to the table and is a sign that I am open and available for my work.
To be Rooted requires and understanding of where you came from, where you are and where you are going. To take time to figure this out is important, even for someone like me whose work it is to help others discover this. To look at these three movements with kindness and compassion, with qualities of the heart.
Let’s make it a point to no longer need to belong to or with someone else and merely belong to yourself. A place where your dreams and desires for the future have no reins, restrictions or constraints. Merely kindness and compassion as a base for the choices we make.
For work, I belong to Be Rooted first, it’s the ground from which I serve you. My vision of the future is to empower young professionals to choose a direction in life: a direction that matters. Choices rooted in what you want to bring to the table.
Barbara writes about the qualities of kindness and compassion and takes a positive approach to health. She supports leaders and teams in their personal development and compassionate leadership. To cultivate what is often referred to as ‘soft skills’ and what she calls the ‘hard skills’; communicating with presence, practicing deep listening and a non-judgmental attitude; being (self)compassionate and building (self)awareness. www.berooted.nl
“By connecting to yourself first, we start living from the inside out and become more resilient.”